Thursday, January 22, 2015

Adjusting attitudes after the holidays

After a week of non-stop goodies and gifts, sometimes toddlers need a harsh reality check.

After returning from our annual Christmas visit back to the home country, we noticed our two boys’ behaviour had taken a clear turn for the worse. It was not a shocking development – we’d just spent four nights in four different places and they’d been bombarded with attention and toys at every stop.

This year, they asked Santa for the usual little-boy stuff; trains, trucks, robots, dinosaurs, robot dinosaurs, etc. And thanks to some very generous, loving, overzealous relatives, our boys had the kind of Christmas that many kids can only dream about.

At three and two years old, Grayson and Rylan had gotten used to the idea of been treated like royalty over Christmas. At Grandma and Grandpa’s house, it was all about them. On Christmas morning, they were excited, grateful and gracious about the many gifts laid before them.

By the second round of family visits on Boxing Day, they had developed certain expectations.

After an aunt presented Grayson with some spiffy new clothes, he quickly set the package down, looked around and said, “What else did you get me?”

If there’s one thing that bugs me, it’s ingratitude, so after that mortifying incident, we had a little talk about greed and good manners. I explained to him (again) that Christmas is more about giving than getting, to which he replied, “I know Dad. People like to give me toys!”

When we got back home to Red Deer and unloaded their vast bounty of toys and gadgets, a massive brawl broke out over which items belonged to who. Apparently both boys had laid claim to everything and neither appeared willing to compromise in any way. As a result, we spent the first few hours back in our own house breaking up boy battles and making trips to the ol’ Time Out chair.

Now that we’ve been home for a few days, they seem to have grasped the idea that Christmas is over and Daddy’s Rules are back in effect – though the occasional brawl sparks up over the particularly contentious toys. That damn Nerf gun is going to be the death of me…

Though my boys’ behaviour could certainly use a little… ‘refining’ it was a fantastic Christmas for the Pare crew. Having little kids of our own definitely revived some of that childhood magic for my wife and I, though next year,  we’ll definitely work a little harder to teach them about the true meaning of Christmas.


Leo is a former Advocate editor. Contact him by email at newsdeadline@gmail.com or follow him on Twitter at www.twitter.com/LeoPare

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